Have you ever wished for more intimacy with your partner? If so, you are already part-way there! The very act of having an idea is a powerful stimulus to start creating action in the direction of that idea. So, the very act of having a desire for a more intimate relationship can start activating behaviors in that direction.

What actions? … you might be wondering. This is an important question!

Each of the following 6 Tips to Create More Intimacy are based on A-C-T-I-O-N. To reach a specific result, it is important to act in ways that create that result! These 6 Tips are —

Tip #1. Talk together about your relationship: To increase intimacy, communication about what is important to each of you is essential. Such communication allows each of you to better understand the important priorities that each of you have. Communicating in this way begins the process to bring the two of you closer, physically and emotionally.

Tip #2. Make a list of actions that promote the closeness you desire: As you discuss what is important to you, begin to write down what you can do — and what your partner can do — to work together to increase closeness. For this step, focus on specific behavioral tasks that can be enjoyed together.

Tip #3. Have your partner make a list of actions that promote the closeness s/he desires: As your partner discusses what is important to her/him, have s/he write down what each of you can do to work together to increase closeness. For this step, focus on specific behavioral tasks that can be enjoyed together.

Tip #4. Plan time to spend together: ‘Remember when you were dating? During that time, both you and your partner made a habit to coordinate your schedules. Why? So that the date would actually happen — so that you and your partner would end up at the same place at the same time! This is still an important step for you and your partner to plan … so it is guaranteed to happen.

Tip #5. Agreement to do at least one thing on each of your lists: That’s right — you are going to start simply … with just one, each!

Tip #6. Implement your mutual plan: When that prior-agreed-upon date and time arrive, you follow through and enjoy time together. During this time, each of you do at least one thing on your partner’s list.

I invite you to use these tips over and over to create even-deeper intimacy with your partner. Your relationship is very precious! Caring for it — maintaining it with consideration, time, energy and love — is essential for it to thrive!